i've been wasting all my time on you

You just won't have the time. Thanks for the post Neil! Are you so determined to spend your time perfectly that you refuse to spend it at all? Choosing NOT to spend your time isn’t an option, so you may as well spend your time on something (or some things) that feel right to you now. You said that you've been missing me, But how can that be girl, how can that be girl. Very cool story, Björn – exactly, all projects happen at different scales and fretting about scale doesn’t help us with any of them . And your last paragraph reminds me of a quote I return to a lot: “it is not your responsibility to complete the work, but nor may you desist from it” . Still there are things that I’ve accomplished, but not that passionate or proud about. We also use third-party cookies that help us analyze and understand how you use this website. But there’s no “right” mixture of outcomes which have to be in that basket. He chose where to spend his time and created something beautiful out of it. [Pre-Chorus] ( PD: Forgive me if my English is not that good Love from Argentina ), Thanks for sharing, Nathan – I’m really pleased the post resonated with you! I hope you keep that fear quelled – as you say, the time is spent regardless of success or failure, but you might as well try and not be too attached to the outcome . This is great! I had ever thought about it before, I’m dissatisfied everytime I can’t notice a pay off. and not myself. I like, wasting all my time, wasting, wasting all my time Are you so determined to spend your time perfectly that you refuse to spend it at all? So, actually, I want less time not more! " I've been waiting for you To come around and tell me the truth 'Bout everything that you're going through My girl you've got nothing to lose I've got time, I've got love Got confidence you'll rise above Give me a minute to hold my girl Give me a minute to hold my girl " - George Ezra I’ve had so many interests in my life already that I look back and sometimes go “oh Jesus I wasted so many years on marine biology, I could’ve been doing X, Y and Z that whole time! Like you, I’m still figuring out what, exactly, to do with my time – I think it’s a lifelong journey. TJ. I have found myself there more times than I care to admit. I feel like I’ve been “wasting time” all day, most of it on-line. As only an 18 y/o freshman in college, I feel as though I’m having an existential midlife crisis every couple of days. The amount of time we intend to spend on a task–a day, a week, or 37 years–isn’t important: that time is going to pass regardless. I’m so in the present moment that it seems a real dead end to be thinking and planning for AFTER I’M DEAD. Thank you for sharing . The loss of two people who, for many complex reasons, were unable to make the most of the time they had has given me plenty of reasons to question how I should be spending my days. The only question is whether we will have anything to show for it afterwards. Perhaps some of them will be like that park, and only be finished at the end of a long life. The fact that there are people alive who actively choose to just live their lives in a place like Slab City, so far removed from what I consider to be a regular routine/life, reminds me of the actual possibilities in a lifetime. But then, I just found Emilie’s TED talk, and this website, and I am soooo resonating with what I’m hearing and reading. This thought has echoed around and around in my mind ever since I read the story of Opus 40 – a sculpture park created by one man over 37 years(!). Any cookies that may not be particularly necessary for the website to function and is used specifically to collect user personal data via analytics, ads, other embedded contents are termed as non-necessary cookies. I’m always jumping from one thing to another, so it takes me forever to get things done (as I end up running various projects altogether). I’m sure that almost every day I would wonder “is this a massive waste of time? I actually wrote a piece for Puttylike (which hasn’t gone live yet) all about optimising for joy, and how our happiness can be a guide – as you say, it’s never wasted! I hope the self-reflection leads you to some good places, and I’m sending lots of good wishes to you while you figure it all out. “Is this the right thing?” “If not then what is?” “I don’t like this anymore and I’m not sure if starting all over again is smart” my problem as a multipod is that I get bored with things quickly or I just don’t like what I’m doing anymore. Sometimes the payoff is immediate, and sometimes it may take decades. I've been wasting all this time Trying to keep you off my mind Yeah, you off my mind, no more I've been wasting all these nights Trying to keep you off my mind Yeah, you off my … And I still got my eyes on you, after all this shit you put me through Maybe that’s why I always feel like wasting time and getting nowhere? I have started to accept that I have crazy ideas and projects, some on a frightening scale, some less so. Also this was in my mail this morning: Maybe all we need is time... And it's telling me it might be you All of my life. This post was the perfect pairing with my morning coffee. I just let them be when I am overwhelmed by them, but I don’t give up on them. I love reminding myself of people who live totally differently than I do, it helps me give myself permission to choose how I want to live. So I've been wasting my time Running after you girl Wasting my time Still I feel a sense of love Never be mine You're someone else's lady Always on my mind That I would steal your love away. I feel anxious and guilty for over-thinking feeling particularly like I have wasted my time. And I know I never say I do, but I like wasting my time on you When we look back and evaluate our lives, we will have a whole basket of things to show for how we spent our time. I try to stay positive and it’s hard when you have anxiety, depression, and dissociation… You never make it simple, but I'm down for the challenge A valuable thing for a teacher to remember! Wasting all my time on you – Ralph Waldo Emerson, Yes, that’s exactly the state to aim for, I think! And for a more immediate remedy: going to a dance class or to the gym help me reduce anxiety! It’s on my list of sites to visit someday soon! [Chorus] I haven’t find a way to relax about it… I just try to push through, do things when they feel right… Sometimes… most of the time… I look back and see how my choices led me in one direction and how seemingly “useless” stuff built up into something as important as a new career choice, for example… This is weird, and exhausting (because I am always worrying about losing my time — getting older doesn’t help! I cannot fathom that this is a real thing for so many people. I was just thinking to myself earlier today how I don’t “belong” to any one group, because my … I like, wasting all my time, wasting, wasting all my time I know I’m lucky to have a supportive enviroment. There’s something that’s always bothering me, which can be sumarized in this one sentence: “No project is so perfect that we’re never tempted by another”. Time waster: watching tv shows on Netflix that I’ve already seen. Then I don’t take advantage of my time as I want. but most of the time the volume of the voice at the back of my head is hard to turn down. It is such a stressor to not only manage the time you have in one day but to manage the thoughts of what you could be doing in one day instead of the thing you are doing! Not all payoffs have to be economic! I know that learning makes me happy, even if it’s a small thing, like a trivia fact (or the sunk cost fallacy, thanks again!). You also have the option to opt-out of these cookies. Part of me recoils in horrified terror at the thought of spending 37 years on a single project – sometimes, 37 minutes can feel like a lot! – but I still find this story inspirational. I’m heading towards middle-age myself, my career is at a plateau, boredom has hit, and I’m grappling to find an answer to ‘Where next?’. Waiting all my life to find you Always been one step behind you Your love babe I've been waiting all my life. I thought it was for me, but first day in and I said to myself “this is not what I want”, and left it without guilt. I’m so happy that I read this today, because I was feeling so anxious all day long Haha. Inspired by this new information I got a dream during the night which then pushed me to write a blog post today where I outlined a method for find truth and happiness, tying it in with a wide variety of topics; psychology, philosophy, religion and spirituality. The process to return the laptop was horrible and now the refund process. All the other girls are average . I’ve enjoyed playing guitar or doing some type of art but the nagging doubt that it is a waste of time has always bugged me. When we look at what our lives “mean” it is again just our projection, our perception of a set of values, values that are not objective, absolute. Your point of view helps me put thinking and creating in a category of production instead of procrastination. Why? I may have actually finally found my tribe of tribes! https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=x1vlKXEHen4, This is great, thanks Anne! I have no idea whether the sculptor struggled with these thoughts himself –this piece in the New York Times suggests that perhaps he did not – but it doesn’t actually matter either way. Ridiculous! in the office. HI Emilie this post helped me a lot or sew! [Verse] We’ve already spent a lot of time since getting to know each other and creating a close bond. Wasting all my time on you [Chorus] Well said! Intellectually I know that artistic expression is good but I often struggle with taking the first step in beginning the creative process. It is mandatory to procure user consent prior to running these cookies on your website. “Wasting All My Time” is a new song by Hoodie Allen for his upcoming project. . Great comment Anne, thank you. I’m always puzzled by people who go on and on about ‘leave a legacy’. Ella Anderson says. I really needed to read something like that today. Required fields are marked *. Before the song was released on August 10th 2018, it was teased, together with the song “Operation”, during a live stream on Hoodies Instagram. Your email address will not be published. Now, I think that if I dedicate more time in what I really want and like, it would beneficial for me and others. Thanks for everything I hope to keep reading your post. Anything beyond that is just a bunch of stories we tell to ourselves and each other. And I still got my eyes on you, after all this shit you put me through I worry on a daily basis whether I am diverting my energies to the right projects. R.I.P. When we go, we don’t know what whether anyone remembers what we did or how it will be used. I like, wasting all my time, wasting, wasting all my time Don't want you to go Need you to stay Easy to choose Made up my mind I'll be with you For all of my … And that was the meaning of life in the first place. Yes, I think there is no time wasted in fretting over pursuing various topics. Was spending 37 years building a beautiful sculpture park the “right” outcome for Harvey Fite? I try to remind myself constantly that I can always get a lesson from what I choose to do, even if the lesson is “you really don’t like this”. Thanks for this little gem of a quote. Joy is our internal compass; what has helped me to decide where to spend my time is the presence or lack of joy. Nor do we have to succumb to the sunk cost fallacy and stick something out just for the payoff we imagined we’d get when we began. When you turn into a savage, but you got something special You off my mind, but no more I've been wasting all these nights Trying to keep you off my mind, yeah You off my mind, no more And how long should I wait (should I wait, I wait) To feel myself, feel myself again? Yeah, I’m still trying to figure out what to do with my life, with my time. But I really apreciate the company, I’ve made some awesome friends. Yup, mixing short-term strategies like dancing or burning off the anxiety with long-term attempts to get to a healthy mindset is probably the best way It helps me to remember we’re all just figuring it out together and that nobody has it all sorted, too! But I actually spent my time just the way I wanted it. [Verse] This, has helped me tremendously to move away from that sense of not being adequate. I've been caught up in the middle I like, wasting all my time, wasting, wasting all my time Since my early twenties i always had doubts about whether I should spend my time on this rather than that, and most of the time ended up doing nothing. (Still have 0 coordination though.) We’ll see? That’s why I am most productive when distracted with a menial job (the Einstein strategy, to steal one of Emilie’s theories): the time I have off is so precious, I am very focused with how to spend my time and end up getting more done. I know that some days I don’t feel as productive as I would like to. I read things that either make me feel validated in my choices, way behind the curve and lazy, uneducated and even brilliant sometimes. if it inspires you, sure; but as a rule of life? Hello! I’ve been in a very similar situation before, lost nearly everything and everyone, and have made a comeback stronger than ever. Period. I often listen to this song by Jeffrey Lewis, which reminds me that my time is guaranteed to pass no matter what I do, and I might as well try and have something to show for it afterwards: What makes you feel like you’re using your time well, and what makes you feel like you’re wasting it? This might be a little morbid, but once upon a time when I was making my “Me Manual” (a concept I picked up from another post on Puttylike! Reply. Any thoughts? It takes the pressure off to get it “all” done before we go. I’m currently a fashion design student and recently I decided “I’m done, I don’t like this anymore” due to many factors but now I’m worried that I’m wasting money and time in college that could be spent on something else. Before the song was released on August 10th 2018, it was teased, together with the … (I’ve been looking, I’ve been looking) I’ve been looking For a woman To save my life Not to beg or to borrow A woman with a feeling of loosing once or twice Who knows how it could be Be tomorrow. have a beautiful day everybody! This post is something that I need to read everyday! The best choice I’ve made was not joining the college my parents wanted me to go to. Yo, I fell in love when we first met, not a lot of moments I would regret It’s the feelings that are attached to my actions (in this case over-thinking) that prevent me from “doing” something. Follow the Joy! I see you waiting Look so lonely I see you waiting I see you waiting. The thought of should I be doing “this” has always haunted me. And did I lose faith, did I lose heart Maybe I did, but I never lost my way To where you are - I've been. Yes! And learning about it certainly made me think differently about how I choose to spend my time. [Verse] Thanks! As a frustrated perfectionist- I am trying to find joy in my journey of life and not let perfection rule my decisions. What do I do, who do I contact? My opinion is that I’m a hasty person, I do not consider that I waste my time, but I do some things that benefit others…. Thanks!! No project is so perfect that we’re never tempted by another, and what’s important is that Harvey Fite did it. [Chorus] This website uses cookies to improve your experience while you navigate through the website. We'll assume you're ok with this, but you can opt-out if you wish. Great article Neil. Perhaps others will seem much more possible when I have grown myself enough. So I’m having a lot of trouble with “wasting time” lately and I think that this helped me a lot. Which of my projects are whims and just a waste of time, and which are worth pursuing? aka procrastinating It will going to help me in my life that stop wasting time…and also not to listen what other says or waste ur time depending on their commands. ” But that’s what I wanted at the time and that’s ok. You had to spend that time somewhere, and you picked the best option you could see at the time. It Might Be You Lyrics: Time... / I've been passing time watching trains go by / All of my life / Lying on the sand watching sea birds fly / Wishing there would be / Someone waiting home for me Out of these cookies, the cookies that are categorized as necessary are stored on your browser as they are essential for the working of basic functionalities of the website. “You don’t want to be so determined to spend your time perfectly that you refuse to spend it at all.”. 2019. With love, Paul. And I know I never say I do, but I like wasting my time on you I think It can be stressful to believe that every single minute has to be accounted for as well. It can be immensely rewarding to contribute to projects that may take far beyond our individual lifetimes to complete. Aligning yourself as best as you can to the things in which you feel joy is never time wasted. I’ve worked a lot with the idea that 1) time is not what we think it is, the measurements hours/days/years and our perception of them are not at all accurate because it is relative and shifts; and 2) our ingrained concept of accomplishment, even beyond money, of having something to show for it, credentials, objects, acknowledgment, knowledge, skills, and the idea of a legacy, living beyond our lives, is so absurd. Thank you for your words of encouragement. She’s a beautiful, sincere person and I couldn’t be happier. This comment could be me, exactly! Share your thoughts with the community in the comments! Exactly right – accomplishment is all relative anyway, so why waste our time worrying about it! 'Cause we live two different lives, and I'm always on the other side I often think it will call me down and help me to get to the right state of being. Definitely still learning to break the cycle, and something about the way you wrote this comment was very inspiring for just sitting down and doing the things I want to do Thank you for sharing! We can’t control whether to spend our time, only what we spend it on. Thanks! A mix of working purposefully – because the thing to”show” might be knowledge, or a relaxed mind, for example – and being willing and able to evaluate when something’s not going the expected direction, to be open to other outcomes, to changing course, or abandoning the effort as a lesson learned. For me it’s specially hard to start doing things I struggle to do, like, I’ve joined a cosplay dance group, and I didn’t know how to dance! I think it also gave me some form of inner trust, that everything will “make sense” in the long run. and clarified my mind because I am very disorganized with my time, You don’t want to be so determined to spend your time perfectly that you refuse to spend it at all. Something's telling me it might be you Yeah, it's telling me it might be you So many quiet walks to take So many dreams to make And with so much love to make I think we're gonna meet some time. Timer filler: actually sitting myself behind my desk minimising met tasks to a ‘to do list’ with only 3 things on it and doing it! This makes me happy on many levels, thanks Paul . These cookies will be stored in your browser only with your consent. [Pre-Chorus] And I know I never say I do, but I like wasting my time on you As you pointed out, that’s definitely the most important thing about it all. Sometimes learning “this isn’t for me” is an adequate payoff for time invested. -the time that you enjoy wasting, is not a wasted time- I can’t kick myself for following a passion even if it was only a few years(which is a lot longer than most of my interests). My daughter Sierra and I were blessed to find each other last summer. That’s sad news, Tom. Necessary cookies are absolutely essential for the website to function properly. Here’s another thing that blows my mind the same way: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Slab_City,_California. Cheat Codes. Then, little more than a week ago my grandmother-in-law also died. All that matters is that there is a payoff. I feel like I’ve been “wasting time” all day, most of it on-line. I do things I know won’t help, but I convince myself it’ll put me in the right frame of mind, but afterwards I’m too annoyed at myself to use the next bit of time properly either.

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